02 Jun The #1 Thing Standing Between You and Your Dreams
After years running multiple businesses and helping thousands of people build businesses to support their dream lives, I’ve got a really good sense of whether someone’s going to make it or not pretty soon after I meet them. A lot of it comes down to whether they know one simple truth, which is:
When it comes down to it, the number one thing standing between you and your dreams … is you.
The people who tend to do really well know this down in their bones, and they act accordingly. But the others…well, they tend to come up with a lot of excuses, let circumstances determine their actions, and give up when challenged.
Of course, this is easier to do than taking responsibility for your own happiness, which is why so many people spend day after day doing something they don’t really actually like, all in service of happiness for the last years of their lives. This mindset often takes the form of:
‘Who, me?’ syndrome
This is also sometimes called a sense of ‘knowing your place’ or ‘having a good sense of your boundaries’. It all means the same thing — buying into the idea that there are certain things that you can do in your life, and certain things that you can’t do, even if you want to, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
While this is changing a lot as the business world (and society in general) changes, it’s still easy to think things like “Well, everyone knows that it’s harder for a woman to start a business,” or “If only I had the type of education that XYZ does, then I could follow my dream, but I don’t, so too bad.”
Here’s the truth: you can do pretty much anything you want to with your life, no matter who you are, no matter your circumstances. So no more excuses!
This is probably the most common pitfall — simply being too busy to figure out what you really want out of your life, or using busyness as an excuse to not take the steps required to make your dream a reality. If you’re spending every day running from activity to activity, answering email after email, and trying to be everything to everyone, STOP.
You don’t have to run yourself into the ground to get what you really want out of life (in fact, this is a really good way to make sure you don’t get what you want!) Take some time to figure out what you want in your life, your business, your relationships, etc., then prioritize making that happen above everything else.
Some people do know what they want, but it all seems so big and far off that it looks impossible to achieve, so they put it off until ‘next year’ or get stuck in analysis paralysis, doing a lot of research on the subject but not taking any action. The key to overcoming this is to break the project down into tiny steps. Start with your end goal, then use reverse engineering to work your way back to your first steps, then go from there. And start TODAY — you’ll learn much more by doing than you will by studying.