Have You Been Working Towards Someone Else’s Dream?

This may seem like a really easy question to answer. After all, if you’re here reading my blog then you’re probably already sold on the idea of taking ownership of your life and not getting caught up in the corporate 9 to 5. But let me ask you a harder question: in this process of building your business, are you really sure that you’re following your dream … or are you working towards someone else’s?

Here’s what I mean:

It’s really easy to fall into the trap of following guru after guru, trying to mimic someone else’s business, or doing “successful entrepreneur” things when actually, you really want something else. People do this all the time — they blog because they’ve heard that you can make a lot of money doing it, or they throw themselves into one type of business or another because it seems like a lot of other people are having success with it, or they pick a person to idealise and then try to create a similar image for themselves.

I’m definitely not saying that you should lower your expectations.

If you want to be the next Marie Forleo or Richard Branson or whoever else, then by all means go for it! If you want to build a business that makes a million pounds a year, then do it! If you want to create a business that lets you live pretty much on passive income, then make it happen!

But what often happens is that people end up trying to become the next Marie Forleo or have their first six figure launch or create a business that lets them live on passive income because that’s what “successful entrepreneurs” do.

That’s the paradigm, so they try to follow it when actually what they really want is to have more time to spend with their families, or write a book that establishes them as an expert instead of blogging all the time, or create a business they have to be involved with on a day to day basis because they actually really love that.

Let me be clear: there’s nothing wrong with any of these dreams. 

But it’s really important to make sure that you’re working towards your own and not somebody else’s. There’s no point in leaving the traditional 9 – 5 just to establish a business that you end up hating! Your work should be in service of your ideal life, not the other way around. And the only “right answer” is the one that gets you what you really want.

So take a minute to think: what’s the core of your dream?  And are you actually working towards that, or are you following someone else’s dream?